You probably heard about the g spot before the clitoris, that’s how popular it is in pop culture. It’s regarded as the secret to female pleasure. If you’ve tried to experiment (and failed) to discover this much talked about erogenous zone, you’re not alone. In fact, it’s an urban debate, whether the spot actually exists or is a made up myth. Good news, we’re here to tell you that it does! And finding it doesn’t have to be that difficult! But worry not, we’re here to show you how. Ready?
Fun fact about the G-spot: The G-spot wasn’t always on the map. It was named after Dr. Ernst Gräfenberg, who first mentioned it in the 1950s.
Step 1: Set the Mood
Before starting, it’s important to create the right atmosphere. You can dim the lights, light some scented candles, put on some relaxing music, and make sure you’re comfortable and relaxed. Remember, the G-spot is a shy creature; it’s more likely to show up when you’re at ease. It’s important to woo the mind before wooing the body, it’s the biggest sex organ you have.
Step 2: The Right Tools for the Job
While your hands are great, you can also experiment with some additional help to make the process easier and more fun. Use your favorite water-based lubricant to ensure smooth sailing, and don’t forget to trim your nails if you’re planning on using your fingers. You can also try some sex toys like a vibrator or a dildo!
Step 3: The Warm-Up
Foreplay isn’t just something to get over with; it’s a super important process of its own. This is your chance to identify what turns you on. Engage in passionate make out sesh, touches, and explore each other’s bodies. This not only sets the stage for the rest but also helps increase blood flow to the area, making the G-spot more sensitive to touch.
Step 4: Finding Your Bearings
Now, the moment you’ve been waiting for – how to find G-spot. Insert one or two well-lubricated fingers into the vagina, palm facing up. Gently explore the upper wall, about 2 to 3 inches in. It’s often described as having a slightly different texture compared to the rest of the vaginal wall – think of it as the “come hither” of textures.
Step 5: The ‘Come Hither’ Motion
Speaking of “come hither,” it’s time to apply this technique to stimulate your G-spot. Curl your fingers in a gentle, beckoning motion toward the front of the body. You might feel a small, spongy area that responds positively to this motion, and just feels really good to be touched. Keep up the rhythm and pressure that feels right for you or your partner.
Step 6: Communication is Key
If you’re with a partner, this is possibly the most important step that your exploration relies on. Keep the lines of communication open. Encourage each other to give feedback – whether they want more pressure, a different rhythm, or if they want to stop or try something different.
Step 7: Experiment and Enjoy
Every vulva owner is different and what works for one person might not work for someone else, so don’t hesitate to experiment with different angles or pressures. Some people might prefer gentle strokes, while others might be fans of a more vigorous approach. The key is to adapt and really listen to your body.
Beyond the Physical
It’s important to remember that this adventure goes beyond the physical. It’s about discovering new parts of intimacy between partners. While finding your G-spot can undoubtedly add some fun to your relationship, the journey itself is equally significant.
Remember, the G-spot is just one facet of the complex and world of human sexuality.
Happy exploring!
