Picture this: you’ve been in a relationship for a while now and everything is just great except for one small (but very important!) thing- the sex. If you find that relatable, worry not. It’s very common for people who have been together for a while to get comfortable and as a result get ‘stuck in a rut’, where your sexy time might feel monotonous or a little dull.
Or, it can also be the case that you’re in a super new relationship, that honeymoon phase where everything feels exciting and you can’t wait to try exciting things in the bedroom together!
Whichever the case, you’ve come to the right place!
Human sexuality is such a vast and complicated thing and understanding it is the only key to mastering it. One of the ways to reach a more fulfilling sexual experience is to learn about various sex positions. As they say- variety is the spice of life! These positions will not only spice up your sex life with some novelty but will also help cater to different desires, preferences, and choices. So let’s get straight into it.
Missionary Position: The Classic
When in doubt, stick with a classic, right? We’re talking about the missionary position. You know this one, It’s probably your bread and butter. A great position for beginners to sex. You’ve got one partner lying down, and the other on top. Research shows that it can help foster emotional intimacy, as it involves a whole lot of eye contact, kissing, and being close to each other during sex. A study published in the found that couples who engage in this position report higher levels of emotional intimacy and relationship satisfaction than those who don’t.
Doggy Style: Unleashing Your Wild Side
If you’re looking to unleash your inner animal, you’ve got to try the doggy style! This one has one partner get on all fours while the other takes charge from behind. Research shows that folks love this position for its primal vibes. And like me, you might have thought that this was only a favorite of the penis owners? You thought wrong! According to a survey by Lovehoney, this position was rated as a favorite by both penis owners and vulva owners, as it offers a sense of dominance and submission that many find exciting.
Cowgirl Position: Taking the Reins
Now, if like us, you’re all about empowerment, the cowgirl position is one you have to try. The cowgirl position, where the receiving partner straddles the penetrating partner, allows for maximum control for the vulva owner and clitoral stimulation. Studies tell us that vulva owners adore this one, no surprise there.
A study conducted by Dr. Ed of Superdrug revealed that this position is favored by women, as it gives them a more active role in sex. It also allows vulva owners to control the depth and pace of penetration, which can lead to better orgasms for them.
Spooning: Getting Cozy and Intimate
Listen, who doesn’t like a good cuddle? But cuddling doesn’t just have to be a post-sex thing! Spooning is an actual sex position! Both partners lie on their sides during sex, and it’s all about closeness. Research from the Kinsey Institute suggests that spooning promotes a sense of connection and bonding, making it an excellent choice for partners craving emotional intimacy during sex.
Lotus Position: Transcending together with Mindfulness
Want to dip your toes into something more mindful? Try the lotus position!
The lotus position, where partners sit facing each other with their legs intertwined, emphasizes emotional and spiritual intimacy. It’s known for its slower pace, deep connection, and potential for mutual orgasm. A study found that couples who practice this kind of tantric sex, report higher levels of relationship satisfaction and sexual well-being.
Edge of the Bed: pushing your limits
This one’s for you adventurous folks, and don’t worry, it doesn’t necessarily require for you to be super flexible or athletic! Sometimes, a different setting or change of scenery can make all the difference. How about trying the edge of the bed? Having the receiving partner lie on the edge of a bed or table while the penetrating partner stands, offers unique angles and sensations. According to a survey by the University of Kentucky, new spots like the edge of the bed can really enhance sexual satisfaction and excitement.
The 69 Position: Double the Pleasure
This is probably one of the most popular sex positions in pop culture, and not for no reason! When it comes to reciprocity, the 69 position reigns supreme.
The 69 position is where partners pleasure each other simultaneously through oral sex. It is named so because the visual position of their bodies resemble the number. A recently published study found that couples who engage in this position report higher levels of sexual satisfaction and relationship quality.
Plank Position: Getting Fit and Flexible
Calling all the gym bros and gals! If you’re all about fitness and flexibility, try the plank position. It’s a variation of missionary with a fun twist.
The plank position is where the receiving partner’s legs are raised and resting on the penetrating partner’s shoulders, offering deeper penetration and intense sensations. A study conducted by the University of Arkansas revealed that sexual satisfaction is positively correlated with physical fitness. Engaging in positions that require flexibility and strength, like the plank, can be a really fun workout!
Yab-Yum: Tantric Embrace
If you’re looking for a spiritual twist, we’ve got something for you too! Now, the name might sound a little silly but Yab-Yum is a tantric position where partners sit cross-legged, facing each other and connecting at a higher level. It’s associated with mindfulness, energy exchange, and spiritual connection. Research from the University of Louvain in Belgium suggests that tantric practices can lead to heightened sexual satisfaction and well-being.
Manzuri tip: Adding a couples sex toy like a vibrator or a penis ring to these positions can bring up the heat by a tenfold!
So there you have it.
Exploring intimate positions can really make a difference in your sex life. Remember, regardless of the position that you opt for, the key to really mastering intimacy and fostering a connection is open communication with your partner!
